Quote: So you are frustrated at him because you did not communicate clearly? Maybe your husband is not the one who is having a problem establishing or communicating EC. Are you hesitant to tell your H that the roses are great, but you don't want them, you just want sex?
Yes, this is very true. I am too cowardly to tell him this in a straight-forward manner. On the other hand, things are looking up because I just talked to him and my roundabout communication method seems to be finally working. I was not doing anything to hide my crabby mood, which was probably due to the fact that I spent the day on the beach yesterday in my new black bikini and received a multitude of clear indications that if I wasn't "trapped" in a marriage with a LD man, I could be getting all the action I could handle.(I am well aware that my feelings of being "trapped" are not my H's fault, but represent an internal conflict.)
My H said "It seems like you are in a crabby mood." and then asked me if I wanted to have phone sex tonight. I asked him if he thought it was pathetic that an offer of sex was all that it took to cheer me up. He said "No, if that's all that it takes, I am happy. I think I'm beginning to understand you.". DUHH!!. Why did it take so long? I am willing to partially blame myself, but I think society is to blame also. My H is having a real hard time believing that the nice woman he lives with JUST WANTS MORE SEX. I am not being pathetically giving by offering it all the time. I am not being pathetically emotionally needy by asking for it. I think he might actually be relieved, if he is able to truly accept me as I am, because like most guys,he doesn't much like Hallmark stores himself.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
