Yeah, but how much would it motivate you, if you were married to a HDW and could get as much as you want. My Mom used to drive me and my sisters crazy by saying "A man won't buy the cow, if he can get the milk for free.". My personal version would be "The cow won't be happy in her stall, if the farmer keeps neglecting to milk her."
I feel like the main benefit of following the PM methods for me has been the fact that I am no longer insane with emotional-fusion. Why was I so "in love" with a man who didn't want to have sex with me and didn't really treat me all that well otherwise? I feel like I've done a lot to conquer these masochistic tendencies of mine. I'm certain my problem now is that I am still a bit of a coward. If I want to be true to myself, I have to tell my H "I don't want sex because then I'll know you love me. I want sex because I won't be able to continue loving you without it.". I'm afraid to tell him this because I believe his response might be to tell himself that I am a "heartless b*tch". I just think this truth will be harder for my H to accept than it would be for the average LDW, because I have cultural stereotypes working against me too.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
