Quote: I like it when my H gives me presents and cuddles and declares his love, but I mostly like these things because they make me think that maybe some sex is forthcoming.
Congratulations, Mojo, you just described my thinking to a "tee." I remember when we were getting ready to be married, we had 9 dead oak trees on our property. I needed to cut them down, and cut them up, before the wedding, which was to take place outside in the yard. Yeah, it's fun wielding a chain saw, but my thoughts were, "if I do this, she will want to have sex with me!" Funny, it didn't work then, and it doesn't work now. Now I just do the chores because they need to be done, not because "I" need to be "done."
My W used to make me feel downright evil for thinking this way (that doing a deed should be rewarded with sex), and I used to feel guilty about it. Now I don't. Sex is a great motivator for me. If she'd figure that out, she'd live in a house with no undone "honey-do" jobs. Now, I just don't have the motivation. I want the EC, too, but have trouble getting there without the ML. I guess we'll both figure that one out sooner or later.
