Quote: When anger and resentment are present, fear is present, and that means you are not loving. If you are not loving, you cannot make a decision or take action IN love. All you are doing is whining and complaining and NOT being YOU.
That is one message I have received from my husband recently. He told me that I came home whingeing and whining about all the things in my life. Little did he know it was because I was screaming with frustration because he won't make love to me. However I have made every effort to change that behaviour and although my sex life has not changed, at least my home and family are happier.
Quote: To get yourself back to the loving YOU that you are, suspend all thought, all action, all decisions. You clear your body of the negative energy and surround yourself in love… immerse yourself in the positive energy of love. Then you resume your thinking. If you cannot rid yourself immediately of the aner/fear/resentment, hold off on whatever you are doing, hold off on any action/decision/thought, if you can.
Take a break. Take a bath. Take a walk. But get those negative thoughts out of your lovely heads and both of you remember the incredible loving beings you are, always, first and foremost. Then go do whatever needs to be done, with love.
Corri
I too am an ethical sl#t and when I read MM post I wanted to respond just as Honeypot did, however do also respect and appreciate Corri's view.
I am so confused and clearly struggling with what I can do while I 'wait' for action or response however have just ordered my copy of PM and cannot wait for it to arrive. Unlike when I purchased SSM, I will not be lovingly explaining why to my LDH, I will be openly reading it as a sign that there is a problem and that I am willing to do anything to overcome it.
