Hi Deb - Don't fight that inner voice, in my case, it was only when I truly got to the place where the outcome did not matter did NG seriously start letting go of OW.
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I just am very aware suddenly of all the things I want to do, and I can't get any where with that if all my focus is on H's stinky mess. This IS my life, so I deserve to get some of what I want....even if that doesnt include him....

This is a VERY good place to be.

Slowly

A Liberal Allowance of Time