Thanks, TC, I'm sure going to try, I've been "here" almost 24 hrs now....maybe I can hang out more! I just am very aware suddenly of all the things I want to do, and I can't get any where with that if all my focus is on H's stinky mess. This IS my life, so I deserve to get some of what I want....even if that doesnt include him....Guess I need to focus big time on the morphing, it was nice to hear how great I looked from a co-worker this morning, though, and to actually laugh with some of them.
I've been cautious because H complained about me being distant and not having time for him as a reason for his A....I see some of that as justified, but I wasnt really doing things I wanted to do either, I don't know what I was doing, hiding and muddling, I guess. How did your H respond when you got to this point? did he ever complain of distance being a precipitating problem?
