Thanks Ellie, this helps me refocus. I know she has been bugging him, terribly sometimes. What you've suggested in kind of the "unconditional love" approach, and frankly that's what's seemed to work best with H, so it would make sense to keep doing it. OW, on the other hand, does NOT use this approach, back in June when H had his short-lived epiphany, he talked about how she "says she loves me but there is always a big string attached"....Frankly, a few times he's come in the door from when I imagine he's been w/OW, and I've just thrown my arms open and smiled and wrapped them around him, and he just seemed to melt into them. I have the afternoon off, so I think instead of spying, I'll use it to get my head together and maybe I'll go buy myself the Tom Petty CD, and work on our bedroom. I havent gotten much done on the redecorating project the last couple of weeks.
