Hi Deb - Your son is one perseptive young man. Absolutely the best outcome of this painful episode is that NG and I understand so much more about what we mean to each other. Like you, we make more time to just talk and connect.
And I'm so glad to see you are able to notice the improvements in S. It must be so motivating to know that all your hard work, keeping a lid on the more painful outbursts, have resulted in the place you are today, a happier family.
About there being no end in sight - actually, I now actively avoid having an end in sight. I want to always have something to work on. I reckon that is one of the aspects of 'putting effort into the relationship' - if we thought we had reached nirvana, would we not then be falling into the same trap of taking each other for granted?
