Hi deb, phewwwww! Finally reached the end of your novel (for now). Hehehe...just kidding!
It seems weird isnt it that during this time, old boyfriends seem to crop up. This happened to me too! One is a weirdo whom I am running away from and another one I can depend on to be a friend and not injected any kind of weird feeling, if you know what I mean. So, God has answered my prayer of having a 'boy friend' who can be a friend and not more. And he was great, we just joked around a lot with each other.
Deb, all I can say about you sitch is STOP OVERANALYSING your H's every move. It would do you no good. If what you've 'guessed' from your H's behaviour is correct than it is good, but what if you've guessed wrongly? You are only going to hurt yourself. SO, no matter what you thought was bothering your H is correct or not, it will do you NO GOOD! What if just when you saw signs of him breaking off with OW, the next day he is in full gear with her again? Do you get what I mean? I am not trying to discourage you but this is what happened to me also. I tend to overanalyse every little things/words that my H did/uttered but in the end it didnt mean a thing and I set myself up for a dissapointment.
Thats why they say to have no expectations and act as if. But there's nothing wrong to show a concern and caring deb when your H looks mournful or down, just dont overanalyse ok.
So, I am not going to interpret your H's behaviour coz there can be 1001 things why he acted the way he acted. We know with MLCs, they can be a caring lovey dovey H one day and a rebellious teenager the next! Its crazy but its true!
Ok Deb, take care ok...
Sometimes the very thing you're looking for is the one thing you can't see..
