I know Pamila, it is so hard for kids....mine have been so hurt and angry and devastated by this. Fortunately I have a close enough relationship that I've been able to explain to both of them why I think this happened, share their dad's point of view as I understand it and what I see as my role (not specifics, of course, but generalities), and apologize to them for my part in helping things to get to this difficult point. I've pointed out to both of them that it is not their fault, and they did nothing wrong. I think that was very helpful to S12....he has said so many times. I'm just so blessed and fortunate to have such great people for kids.
