I am so confused. I try to look objectively at the facts, but they don't seem to clarify the situation for me much. The facts: --H grew increasingly distant, depressed and angry over a period of 2 -3 years. --H feels he tried to communicate to me how unhappy he was and I rejected him; I maintain I didnt understand --H has been involved in hot A for just over a year with a co-worker 10 years younger --H has never left home --H has said he doesnt want a divorce, that he wants M to work out --We are closer than we have been for years, not perfect but much better --Sex is better and more frequent than it has been since we were newlyweds 25 years ago --H & I express appreciation to each other and do little things for each other more than when we were first together...still not "perfect", but "better" --H seems happier, much less distant and angry and withdrawn --H has told me 1/2 dozen time the A is "over" --H and OW have many fights and arguments and are mean to each other --S11 tells me that the "tone" of his fathers voice is completely different when he hears him on the phone w/OW than it used to be (irritated, angry, "I've just about had enough of this s--t is how S describes it) --H continues to go back to OW after every break up --H talks about plans for the future in our home/R
What the heck does anybody make of this??????????????????
