Deb - he is confusing, just go slowly. Don't drop too much on him at one time, and don't do too much! It's almost (to me) like you are catering too much to him - and I think that can really backfire a lot.
It did make me smile, though - when BF broke up with me, and we were still living together (he was supposedly thinking about whether we should stay together), I wrote him a LOT. It backfired. I asked him recently to throw out any of those letters I'd written that he still had. The one thing he said he DID want to keep was something I'd written that was 100 reasons to stay with DFB. He said I'd put so much work into it, he had been surprised and it was creative (or something like that). I said sure, keep it. It wasn't one of the emotionally drawn-out notes.
