last night when H and I were chatting, I was "listening between the lines" again...I know that sounds weird, but even H has mentioned many times the importance of being able to do that to his work in therapy...that you can always tell what's going on with people if you just listen because it will begin to come out in the things they say....
So anyway, he was talking about his secretary leaving....she is the epitome of the "valley girl"...everything is All about her All the time....anyway H commented "you sure wouldnt want her for a wife. I cant imagine she would ever do anything to help you out or give you any support or encouragement or even any warmth".
I took this as an interesting "word snapshot" of what H values/sees important in a marital R.....so I'm taking this to heart! Actually, I'm kind of proud of myself, because this is what I figured out 6 months or so ago, and now it's like he's telling me that I'm on target.....
I hope that's the hidden message there, anyway....I'm pretty sure he isn't getting much of any of that from OW right now, either.
