speaking of lists, I've continued to "ponder" the list H was so worked up about a week ago. I believe the list is for OW....I think his .50/$1 analogy is an attempt to explain the concept of reciprocity to her....
I don't know if this is an attempt for him to begin to tell her it's over because.....(don't I wish) or if it's giving her a second chance , but I do think it has to do with her and I guess I should take heart that he made a note that as things are presently they arent meeting his needs....I don't think she is capable of much change.

I'm trying to consider the list as a blessing in disguise as far as helping me to know for sure what H wants. I have to say that when i look at it that way, it's actually pretty reassuring, because I think I have a lot of it nailed down and have made huge progress in the areas he outlined....

been around awhile!