This really IS crazymaking!! What do you think about adopting the perspective that maybe he is looking at both of his "current situations"? ...analyzing and questioning? I'm thinking that if you don't want to go absolutely crazy ... that it may be be best that you "look" at all of his notes this way. Probably this is not the perspective you want to "hear", but how about adopting the attitude that your getting a "heads up" on what H is looking for. Of course we know that you are the one that is winning out...your H is with YOU, isn't he??

So ... now if you do "adopt" this attitude, you need to continue to morph into the DB queen! Just keep following the same road you have been. Shall we gather all around and put our DB morphing "rings" together for you? We will help keep you strong! YOU will win!!

Keep trying different things. If you get a negative/ornery response throw that out. As far as the intimate side ... I'm trying to think of how I can put this "delicately" . Hmmmm, I guess, just say it, huh? See if "asking" what he likes during the throes of passion might produce a little better response. They seem to throw all of their "attitudes" out the window for a few minutes during that time. (Again, just an idea.) Also keep adding new things to your new "lingerie wardrobe". I think that most men do like surprises like that! As you experiment with different things ( in all areas ), you WILL know what he likes/dislikes by his responses. Maybe try to stay away from trying to ask too many questions. Even if it's just 'cause you're trying to be nice and "know" what he likes, they still SOMEHOW perceive those questions as "pressure".

...Just a few things that I felt worked for me ..

Last edited by totallyconfused; 07/30/04 04:33 PM.
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