Quote: We're sitting in the same room not even talking. this is absurd.
Well then, speak up!!!! Tell him this is absurd, that you are sorry but given the circumstances, it is really not that unusual that you would be worried about the hotmail thing, and that his reaction is really disproportionate and you would like to have an honest discussion about why that is so. Is it because he's afraid he'll have to live with the guilt forever? If so, reassure him that you ARE healing and it trakes time and a willingness on his part to be open.
If you can't talk directly to him, write him a note.
