It's what I am working through over on my thread. The ones that particularly struck a chord with me were -
Quote: 2. You give up your need for revenge but continue to seek a just resolution.
3. You stop obsessing about the injury and reengage with life
4. You protect yourself from further abuse.
6. You look honestly at your own contribution to the injury.
9. You carefully decide what kind of relationship you want with the offender.
I am currently reading Living with the Passive Aggressive Man, and although my H doesn't fit the description even 50%, there are definite echoes of his behaviour in the descriptions, that are enlightening to think about. It also talks about how one's own behaviour facilitates PA behaviour, and I think I am a manager/rescuer type to some extent.
Even though we are legally separated, I have to deal with H all the time, so I need to learn how to negotiate my way wisely through our contact.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
