The miracle is this....

[sage]

I guess I was responding to the "prop your man up" message, which is probably a way too simplistic reading of your post.

does "prop your man up" EQUAL "support your man"? Not sure that's a bad/questionable thing...

But, there is still the OW which makes me ponder a possible link between detachment and denial...

Well, denial is pretending she doesn't exist...detachment is just realizing that part of it is out of your contol (and it sounds like you're doing great with the part that IS in your control!)

Sage