Hey all --

Slowly and Bill, thanks for the visits! Glad to hear that my rambling post provided food for thought! Bill, I stopped by your thread and read thru...will visit again when I have more cycles.

Had a great night last night...met h after his first day of school and we had beers and clam rolls while watching the Sox at a bar. Lots of good food and awesome company! H made the toast and said something like "to the best support system ever" (meaning moi! ) I really love how he notes and appreciates me for that.

Today we're trying out something new -- "doing stuff around the house night" . I mentioned to h a few weeks ago and brought up again this AM that I'd like to set aside a weeknight each week for us to spend some time on "house" stuff -- it could be as mundane as food shopping or a trip to Target -- or it could be a mini-project or whatever. Simply put, with me working and him in school full-time, lots of stuff gets put off to the weekends and then they feel stressful and frustrating...meanwhile, we DO have time on weeknights to both play AND work

I have to admit that I had a hard time (internally) asking for this...I guess because it felt "controlling" or "dictating". In truth, though, h has been very much on top of and aware for the need for "organization" and even brought up the overall topic a few weeks ago so it's not as though he wasn't primed and ready himself...I just really have a hard time asking for help from him.

BUT, I did it. And I did it in a way that was fine (direct; not a lot of emotional explanation; had already mentioned it once; not during a stressful time) and he was more than fine with it so I'm gonna stop worrying about it!

Sage

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.