Thank you for your reply, and please don't be jealous, I only expressed my current situation, not what has happened in the past ... and I also didn't express that the intimacy that we share after waiting 4-6 weeks is not mind-blowing and sometimes not even remotely satisfying by any stretch of the imagination.
In answer to your questions: No, my H has not been checked medically, although it is also my thoughts that he is in working order and that a hormone inbalance is not part of the problem - to understand why he hasn't been to the doctor, you would have to fully understand the male Aussie Ocker.
As fair as councelling, I have asked if he thought we needed councelling as far as our relationship goes to which he responded very angrily 'If you think we need it' ... this was only a couple of weeks ago and I have thought about revisiting the question but haven't. I know it would be a good idea though but feel we need councelling more in a 'sex therapist' kind of way rather than a 'relationship therapist' but am not sure that he would agree at all because he doesn't think there is a problem .... denial must be a nice place to be.
Thanks again for your input and I will certainly consider it further.
I just wish he would read SSM, so that he could understand how this makes me feel.
