Does your H know about these "offers" from HD friends? He might turn up the heat if he suspects he's not the only rooster in the coop. I wouldn't use it as a threat, just have him find out in some roundabout way.
It would be impossible for it not to be a threat and using that kind of behavior to "inspire" your spouse is simply the wrong approach.
The correct approach is to keep it positive and "wants" based. Make sure you are making him feel that you want *him* while expressing the things you want for yourself. If you start saying you want more sex but at the same time, you start acting like it might come from someone else, then he might just feel like you have "horny urges" and very little emotional connection to him. This may temporarily inspire him...in a competitive "alpha-dog" way but it wouldn't last and you really wouldn't want him coming to you in that way.
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