Quote: I told him one time that when I initiate sex and he doesn't respond to me at all (he would completely act as though I hadn't done a thing) that I feel ignored, undesireable, rejected ect. His knee jerk reaction to my statement was..."I never said that!" So I calmly said...no, I didn't say you "said" that, I said it makes me "feel" that way when you give me no response whatsoever to even acknowledge I'm in the room.
Wow. I think I now understand a similar pattern on my S's part, to claim that much of what I said was "picking on her." Obviously, I need to watch what I say in case I am being unfair, but there are also issues that are hers, not mine, here.
