This is my first post on this site although I have been reading your very intriguing threads for a while now.
I am in my mid 30's, work fulltime and lead a busy life with my two children 14 & 11. I like to think that my H and I have a pretty 'normal' life (in Australia), we both work, share responsibilities financially and in the home, both come from conservative happy families (who never spoke about sex), both are working on getting fit and are enjoying exercising together and lead a very happy life, outside the bedroom ... where it all goes pearshaped to say the least.
I am a HDW with a very LDH. I have been allowing him to initiate ML for some time now (possibly years) because I thought that was the right thing to do (read it somewhere once).
I am climbing the walls to say the least .. and have turned down 'offers' from other HD friends for more than a year now. I am a faithful W but believe me I am finding it more and more difficult to give in to his LD actions.
He will initiate once every 4 to 6 weeks if I do not drop subtle hints, however I am a once (or more) a day girl.
About a month ago after reading STM I made it very clear (in a letter) that I was not happy to continue the way things are and asked if we could PLEASE communicate something about our differences and or needs/wants (which we have never really done). To date I have had no response ... how long should I wait ? Do I need to be more assertive ?
Please Help me as I don't want to give up that special part of my life at all let alone in my 30's.
ago after reading STM I made it very clear (in a letter) that I was not happy to continue the way things are and asked if we could PLEASE communicate something about our differences and or needs/wants (which we have never really done). To date I have had no response ... how long should I wait ? Do I need to be more assertive ? 