I hope that you know that I wasn't reading those old posts to "snoop" I was just curious to see what kind of a guy your H was.
I wish that there was an easier way on the board to go back and read old posts. For example you are now at over 7000+ posts, but I would love to read post #3 or #250 but unfortunately there really isn't a way to ascertain what post #3 even was.
When I said that some of those old posts made me feel uncomfortable, it was just because the pain was so raw and at the surface. I was not criticizing, just commenting.
I guess what I was wanting to see was CHL's take on some of this, maybe to see how he was responding to being db'ed or if his heart was ever even in saving your M.
I wonder sometimes what it all looks like from the perspective of the WAS who is being db'ed. All my friends here on the bb are women whose H's have OW's.