Quote: It is very difficult, if not impossible, to be strong in requesting more sex from your spouse if you aren't sexually confident yourself. Do what you need to do to feel confident.
I feel confident enough to ask, well, now I do, anyway. As far as confidence over my hypothetical sexual abilities, I can't say that I know if I will be a good lover. My sexual experience is quite limited for a man my age. For all I know, that might be one of the reasons why my wife is undermotivated. Maybe not. It's not like she ever complained in those stages of our marriage where we were in conception mode. The strange paradox is that she enjoyed sex when we had it, she just doesn't want it.
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
