My wife would probably tell you about all of the unkind things I have done to hurt her. I just wish I could get her to tell me.
Quote: Your story is intruiging and I can relate to so much of it. In particular the losing weight and feeling good about yourself, I have read many many self help books, (although I think my next one will be PM) including those on weight loss as I too, have a problem in that area. Many of these books say that something in your subconscious is telling you not to lose weight and I have recently discovered what mine is .... What if I lose weight and you are still not interested in ML with me ? OR Why should I lose weight to make you feel like ML with me when others are still interested in being with me ?? Nevertheless, I am working on it.
If you lose weight, do it for yourself, not him. Then you will be able to substitute the pleasure of overeating with the pleasure of clothes shopping .
It sounds like you need to get your husband to at least talk about the issues. If he says it's not your weight, take him at face value. Believe it or not, most men will overlook a couple of love handles, MegaMojo's experience excepted. Also, your husband could tell you that the problem is your weight just to make it your problem and not his.
Either way, we all need to learn to stand on our own two feet, to fight for what we want, and to learn to be easier on ourselves and our spouses.
Thanks for the kind words.
Tony
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
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