I'm going to agree with much of what Tim said, especially delving in to the "forgiveness" thing. What has she been holding on to for sooo long? Sounds like that may be a possible key (at least one of them) to obtaining that emotional connection you are needing. It's very hard for a woman (speaking as one) to feel sexual towards her partner when she's holding grudges, anger & resentment inside. At some point she will hopefully find a way to let that go...remember though it will be up to her to do that, you won't be able to do it for her...she'll have to find her own way.
