Welcome. I used to bring up all kinds of issues involving sex right at bedtime, and she had the, totally plausible, excuse that she was tired. So I've been trying to train her to talk with me during the day or evening, preferably away from the kids and the house. Most of the time, we talk about things other than our R (lots of times I just listen) but at least I can sometimes bring up my issues while she is awake and able to consider them. Though I'd love to have a weekly sex night, I consider it progress to have gotten a fairly regular date night. I'm a big believer in taking baby steps toward the goal of winning the marathon.
