You need to be direct and obvious as a ball peen hammer upside the head. Don't "hint around" and think that your spouse will catch on... 'cause that ain't happening. I did that hint thing for months, and I never got anywhere. You do need to speak up, even if you know that it might end up in an argument.
Quote: GEL wrote: Oh yeah...I know what you mean. My H always tries to bring our arguments around to who is right and who is wrong...I always tell him it's not about right and wrong or finding fault...most of the time I respond to his "Well who's right?!" question with "neither of us, it's just a difference we're having."...he never knows how to respond to that.
Funny, I have similar discussions with my W, and diffusing the situation with careful explanations is a good tactic. It seems that the "spouse in question" always needs to be right, doesn't it? How about taking responsibility for 50% of "it" (whatever it is) and realizing that nothing will be resolved if we worry about right and wrong?
