Rockin! I'm excited to hear that it worked for you guys! Hey this board can use some success stories!
Anyway, it's a pretty neat example of breaking a problem down into manageable pieces. When faced with trying to balance and pedal, it's a painful, seemingly fruitless process...but isolating each piece, like balance first, then pedaling after makes the process fun and quick. It's a great metaphor for so many things.
You are right on the money by asking where your W's pedals are. I sometimes feel like we all are working so hard and our efforts are leading to unenthusiastic partners who are frustrated, irritated and seemingly unable to learn. We are all trying to figure out if there is some simple principle that can be applied to our situations. We should explore this here. I'm trying to fix the SSM by slowly helping my W reap the rewards of taking small risks by doing things similar to the time I taught her to snow ski. She was attracted to me for my sense "adventure" but she trusted me to bring it to her in a safe way. Somewhere along the line, her perception of me changed from "exciting" to "scary" and a little of the trust was gone. I too used to appreciate her "ground" personality which later turned into "boring". This might have nothing to do with the sex issue but it's something that I can work on and build a connection in the process. For example, we had the absoluted best day today when we went tubing on a river in N. Georgia. She has been really opening herself up to some of these activities and letting herself "try" again in these areas. I feel like I'm married to my college sweetheart again. My strategy is to make her world look and feel similar to a time when we used really connect. It seems to be working and we're both having a great time in the process.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
