All I can tell you is that you need to come right out and talk to her about this.
"Wife, what is it going to take for you and I to have sex on a regular basis?"
You need an answer.
If the answer involves changes that you can make, then make them. If there is no reasonable way to work this out, then don't be buying any new houses!
I bet that you two can come together on this, but it is going to require BOTH of you to soften your hearts toward each other. You simply can't hold on to every grievance you both have with each other. You might as well end the relationship otherwise, because it is as good as dead anyway.
I want to see HD with an ear to ear grin and wife all aglow and radiant from the love you two share.
I suspect that your ex is playing no small role in the way your wife feels toward you.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
