Quote: So I guess the exercise is to get myself in a happy frame of mind despite a missing EC. This is what I would do if I were single. The trouble with this exercise is that "pretending to be single" makes it hard acknowledge the existence of your spouse because you are fighting the natural, habitual pull towards them.
Don't feel too bad. This is hard to do even if you're someone like me who kind of likes the idea of being single. The big difference in the situation is that when you are single you aren't "forced" to be celibate. Even if the likelihood of getting laid on any given Saturday night is pretty slim, you can at least freely fantasize on the possibilities. Of course, IMO Schnarch would argue that you aren't "forced" to be celibate on any given Saturday night either. You can choose, like the example in the book, to tell your spouse "I really want to get laid tonight. Do you want to join me or should I go out to the bar?". Unfortunately, nobody on this board has the kind of giant gonads necessary to say anything half as bold as that.(Well, maybe NopKins but he's already getting it everyday,so he doesn't have to )
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
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