Dave,
Call me fused but I don't see what the point is in 'testing' your EC with her, as the weeks of no sex slip by.

Why would you do this? What do you hope to achieve or discover by testing this out?

In other words, my EC is definitely tied to the amount of sex that we have. Are you saying this makes me fused? I can't see how it does, since the whole point of the good doctor's book is to resurrect the passion between married couples.

My husband's (and your wife's) EC is dependent on a whole other set of variables and I can finally say, with a good deal of honesty, that I am doing my part in keeping the EC alive in a way that appeals to him.

I can tell you that I have a very hard time keeping my own EC alive and well if more than a week goes by with no sex. Why shouldn't I? This is my primary way of feeling connected to him? Why would I expect any other outcome?

It is fused to become angry, or bitter or start thinking irrational thoughts like "he doesn't love me and I don't love him"...all of which I have done/do... ...but I don't see why the fact that I lose the EC with him is something that I should work to eliminate.

Isn't this what keeps us on track with creating and sustaining a PM--following the EC and making sure that it is a priority in our lives?

Honey