You don't want her to be motivated ultimately by your being grumpy.
That's something I'm struggling with and need to work through. I think it may be the cause of my lack of desire when she DOES come to the bedroom with me. I feel that dropping the 2x would make our time together more "real". While I've made the metaphor that it would be like be "letting go" of child learning to walk, the reality is that it's me gaining the courage to let go of the handrail as *I* learn to walk. The truth is that I will probably lose my EC with her as a weeks slip by. I will also have to fight the urge to revert to my Marriage 1.0 posture but I think I can do it. I like the version of myself that is more involved with the family. I like giving consideration to my W before myself. I like not being such a selfish bastard. Maybe the release of my "hold" on this process is the final gift of selflessness. I will simply have to work on my emotions during that time and learn to deal with it alone. I don't know for sure, but my heart tells me to have faith in my W.
Is it obvious that I'm waffling back and forth on this decision? NOPKins, are your there? I need your insight on this idea. But something tells me that I'm going to "let it go" tonight. I'll report back later.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
