You know I really feel like I'm in the same kind of boat as you, Dave. I'm not sure what the answer is either. Is it really more differentiated to just feel somewhat annoyed and unattracted to our spouses than to feel very sad or resentful or cold. I am trying to come up with a way I can transcend the fusion rather than just keep it under control. I think it calls for a complete paradigm shift, but I can't get my mind around it. I think I need to change my way of thinking about my relationship not just change my way of reacting within it. I guess I think you need to do the same, but that's about as far as I've been able to take this line of reasoning.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
