Slow and Steady

[MJontheMend]

When I mean she won't let me touch her, I mean that she takes a position where she does not want to let me even try to arouse her.

If you were to ask HD me what "gets me going". I wouldn't think to mention direct clitoral or vaginal stimulation. That's what I want once I'm in 3rd gear. It's possible the reason your wife doesn't want you to touch below the belly button is because she knows her chain is going to fall off if you switch to that gear before she's up to speed. Because I'm HD, I am frequently in 3rd gear before my H even makes a move, but sometimes I start from neutral and in that sich, I need sexy talk, kissing, breast stimulation, indirect clitoral stimulation or teasing moves from my H OR I can get myself to 3rd by "doing" or teasing my H OR I can get myself to 3rd by "doing" myself and my H simultaneously up to a point. To put it crudely, I don't really want clitoral or vaginal stimulation to orgasm unless I'm already hot and wet. I think what HP was getting at is you should try to figure out what kind of foreplay gets your wife aroused, not what kind of sexual action is most likely to lead to orgasm for her. The point I'm making is that your wife either needs to work on figuring out what exactly you can do to get her aroused or she needs to work on being able to tell you if she already knows and she needs to take some responsibility for self arousal either through fantasy, playing with your body or playing with her own body in your presence.

She says that the sex does feel good to her despite the fact that she doesn't O.

It is entirely possible for a woman to enjoy having sex in the missionary or other positions even if she isn't very aroused as long as there is enough lubrication because it's kind of like getting an internal massage. If I had a very HDH, I might be too lazy to concentrate on vaginal orgasm sometimes so I would just relax and enjoy the feeling of being f*cked.