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When she asks if I am "disappointed in her" (which she never would ask, probably), I would say no, but that I'm disappointed in my situation.



If your wife asks, Honey, does this dress make me look fat?, the correct answer is No.

If your wife asks, Honey, am I a disappointment to you?, the correct answer is No.

In both cases, your wife knows the truth and it's up to her to face it herself. That's her crucible.

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Hairdog - young padawan. Young, and wreckless is he. Like his father.



Star Wars, what a bunch of nerds .

Yoda indeed!

"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment."
Henry David Thoreau