Thanks for the reply. I've been very impressed by your advice here. Out of curiosity about the wise sage of the SSM Board (you), I went back to your first post - Monkey on a String. This gives me hope. It sounds like you have made some good progress in a relatively short period of time.
I read Michelle's response and she mentioned "sadness" versus "disappointment". My W has been telling me alot that she feels like a big disappointment to me and I'm sure I'm fueling these feelings because YES, I am disappointed and I'm even a little angry but I don't show it when we talk about stuff.
It made me wonder if I should, along with changing the tempo, change the tone? I would like to ask everyone what I could do to assure her that she's not a "disappointment", but in fact, I feel that she is. My struggle seems to be with my own feelings. Candid honesty right now is probably not good for our situation.
I keep telling myself "she owes me nothing, she is not obligated to 'desire' me just because we are married." But if she says there is "nothing" I can do to improve her desire for me, then I'm lost. It's just weird.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
