That type of "openness" is the 3rd leg of differentiation. My W is very self-validated and can soothe herself very well but her ability to disclose is the part that brings her into equal differentiation with me. The problem is that her self-soothing and inability to disclose basically involve a poor stress management style where she "eats" her stress. Again, I'm not trying to analyze her but it might be more productive to asssert your needs for openness rather than sex. (I'm telling myself this).

Later.

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