Well, it seems that JJ locked out My Last Thread before I could put a link to this one.
I really do not know if I should start a new thread here or move over to surviving the Big D. C seems to be on one of her push away moods lately and I really do not want to give her the opportunity to pull me in again just to then push me away. So, I will work on my house and leave her alone, then work on a new relationship with someone that knows what they want.
I got all my things from her place except all my things from the shed (SA says that I can leave my things there as needed) and my hot tub (SA says the same thing). But I did remember 2 other things too. I have a bird house in her front yard and it is still occupied so I will leave it for now. Also, I have a chair that she is using in the bathroom when she puts on her makeup. I will need to get that soon.
House is comming along fine. I have a new stove (glasstop), Pool is working fine. my Bedroom should be finished today, (Painter got the room on Friday but is doing the trim today) It will be nice to get the rest of my things from the Apartment tho. (washer/dryer, Living room stuff, Dining room table and chairs, and my bedroom suit.)
When I move it all into the house I plan on taking a 10 day vacation - I have been to all of the lower 48 except 3 out in the midwest, Utah, New Mexico and Colorado, so on the 6th of August I will point my trusty old Durango west and Drive. On top of being a nice vacation, it will put me out of town on the anniversary of the Bomb.
Grand son (13) has been out of town all summer and has just got back into town. He is very eager to see my new home and so I will have him over tonight to grill out a steak (he loves steaks) and to check out my place. Should be a fun night.
Well better go get back to work, my boss does not like me taking too much time to post here.
Quote: When I move it all into the house I plan on taking a 10 day vacation - I have been to all of the lower 48 except 3 out in the midwest, Utah, New Mexico and Colorado, so on the 6th of August I will point my trusty old Durango west and Drive.
I think that varies with A's as I asked mine before I paid her and if D had cancelled without her using up the fee I would have gotten it back or what of it hadn't been used.
That retainer sure can vary as CHL's A's retainer was 3 times what my A's was, but it showed in the end.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Hi Holding - the issue of retainers and attorneys vary from attorney to attorney. In my type of work I generally do not charge retainers. But in the few cases where I do charge then I ask for enough up front to get me through a certain point in the case. I would think that a D attorney would charge enough to cover setting up the file, prepareing the petition, and filing it in court.
as to any refund - I belive that it is unethical for an attorney to keep any unearned fees and those fees sould be returned. In other words, if the A ask for a $3000 retainer to be offset against hourly billing of $200/hour and he only works for 5 hours on your case then he should return $2000. If the attorney does not then you might check with the State Bar on the ethical rules in that area.
i found the retainer thing interesting. When I was going to have the D dismissed my att raised the price! From 2500 to over 2800! But my monthy billing says different! My billing says I don't owe that much. I think my att wanted to let me know if I dropped it he was going to change me more, what a rip off!
No word from the att, thank God! My prayers at least there are being answered. I think God knows I can't take much more!
H did mention he needed to get someone out there to fix that part of the roof! Scares me, I think he is doing it because he thinks we are selling the house! My mind becomes a twister and then i tell myself, whatever! I intend on keeping the house and living what is left of my life there!
I don't care if it is a money pit; it is my home, has been for almost 22 yrs! I'll go out one way; in spirit! Or as my mom would say,"in a box".
You deserve a trip, go for it! Glad to see you are still here in piecing! If you go to Surviving a D, I will not like that. You should stay here.
You are right about one thing, leave C alone. Our S's are in there own little world, when and if they decide to join us, they will find a happier more well-adjusted adult!
Just think of this as your journey; a learning experience! Some days are good, some are not so good!
Master bedroom is totally painted top to bottom - have a new ceiling fan to install and I have shampooed the carpets - now I just need to get my bedroom suit in there and it will be done.
I put in a new wall plug for the dryer but when I get it over here I will have to wire up a new power cord (old one from the apartment is a 4 wire and the house is a 3 wire.)
Dining room is ready for my table and chairs too so I am just about ready to bring all my furniture over.
Then after I get everything over then it's off to the midwest. then back to clean up the apartment and then get my storage items from C's shed. After that it is just getting settled in my new digs.
