Quote: At least you know what he needs. Can you just provide it without knowing who the notes are for?
Frankly, these are the things I have been trying to do...and I believe even he would say I've done a good job of them....I guess that's why the huge questions are stuck in my mind, and I feel so confused.
One thing that just came to mind is that months ago, I told him that if there was something I could do to be a better spouse/partner for him, to improve our life together, that I was open to hearing it....I think this was probably in Feb. or March....he replied "you're doing fine" , about a month after that, I asked if he recalled me saying that, he said he did, and I told him I wanted him to know that the offer still stood, and he just nodded his head....going on the "if he's not deaf he heard you" theory, I havent said anything about it since, but maybe this is a start at saying what he needs.... I feel like I have been as compassionate as I can be....trying to understand how he feels about things, giving him "room" feel them, trying to meet the needs I'm aware of or can figure out, letting him know how very special he is to me....trying to be a "helpmate" while not becoming his mother....and I recognize things most be difficult for OW.....
, about a month after that, I asked if he recalled me saying that, he said he did, and I told him I wanted him to know that the offer still stood, and he just nodded his head....going on the "if he's not deaf he heard you" theory, I havent said anything about it since, but maybe this is a start at saying what he needs....