I'm thinking maybe I need to rewrite some goals with a longer-range view of where I want things to get....I was reading part of SSM last night, and the goal setting stuff there really hit home, where it talks about what will it look like/what will you be doing when your M/R is what you want it to be....so with that in mind, here's my start:
--we will talk, chat, joke, laugh and share ideas on a daily basis, easily and naturally
--we will share a sense of camaderie and trust
--We will each do "little things" for the other as gestures of affection/appreciation/love
--We will ML frequently (2Xwk or more) and both enjoy it
--we will do "fun" things together as a couple on a regular and frequent basis (1Xwk or more)
--We will each express respect, admiration, love, and encouragement for the other daily
--We will exchange non-sexual physical expressions of affection every day..pats, hugs, handholding, etc.
OK, that's just a start for thinking points, but that's what it would look like....now I gotta think before I break each down into steps, but I can see that we HAVE made progress in many of these areas....
Last night S mentioned how his Dad never used to tease the dog, or me, and "never talked with me about anything fun" last summer when things were "hot and heavy" w/OW....I asked S, "and is that different now" and he said "oh, yeah, he does it all the time now"....so even the dog must sense some progress...
