I am so irritated and frustrated by his continuing load of crap I could scream......not one single word from him today.But I guess I better get over it and decide to get on with life and whatever.... I think I'm going to at least sleep on the ring crap....I may decide to not even mention it....it bothers me to not confront stuff, because it just seems like condoning it or whatever...but as TC posted from her thread, HB's info, "you don't confront a MLC'er because they are irrational".......sure irritates the crap out of me, though..... But the thought does keep occuring to me that for him to be so uncomfortable about me seeing that he isn't wearing it has to mean there's been some progress made....He's concerned enough with what I think to be worried, although is he more concerned w/what OW thinks so he isnt wearing it? I believe he's taking the path of least resistance, ususually he's there and seated before I get there, so there isn't as much chance for me to notice, and he's over there in the building with her all day.....I very seldom see her.
It's possible he hasnt emailed me because he's afraid I'm upset, or because he feels guilty and pressured after finding the nice, loving mushy card today (good or poor timing, I don't know)....because he's incredibly busy (that's what he will say) or because he's all wrapped up in hot & heavy emails from OW....
I'm thinking he probably expects to get some type of repercussion over the ring when he gets home....so would ignoring it completely be good DBing? isn't one of the premises to do a 180 on what they expect you to do/you usually do?
hmmmmmm, now this is kind of a devious thought, but he knows I know, so by not saying a word, does that point out some things to him...I don't know, maybe:
-I do love him unconditionally; all his testing and crap will not change that -I may not always react in the way he expects -I'm not all that concerned with what he's doing w/OW (hah, now that might, admittedly, be a stretch for him to think that) -I am the patient, loving one with his best interests at heart, who truely loves him enough not to pressure him? who means it when she said he is free to go because she's the one who isnt pressuring him to stay?????
I dont know, does any of this make sense to ANYONE? I'm not completely sure it makes sense to me......
