Hi Pamila, I think you hit the nail on the head, this is what's been swirling underneath the surface....I would confront H in any way because I am angry and out of the hope it would make me feel better; it would probably just set things back further from where I want to go....although I'm not sure I can resist the lotion gig....
The fact that he was squirming so much does mean that he has enough of a consicience bothering him to be sheepish about it....he was really uncomfortable, and it had to be about me, it would make OW's day for him not to be wearing it.... He did start wearing it again with out a word from me, I used to make a big issue of it LAST summer, to no avail.....hmmmm....maybe I should take note of that "to no avail" observation....and that gives him something else to rebel agains and have justification for his behavior....my "pressure" and "unreasonableness" right.....plus, I did go there just before vacation, when he came home from work w/o it and he said he'd just forgotten it and it would take time to get in the habit of wearing it....I'm sure that's what he'd say again and in his mind turn it into me being unreasonable....hmmmmm......This dude is really stuck between a rock and a hard place....
I've been thinking his extreme "urge surge" is good....I have thought and thought, and I cant come up with any reason to see it as anything but good.....
and I believe that he'd be avoiding/pulling away/shutting down in that dept. if he was trying to get himself out the door.....the same with his references to future plans, etc.....
I can only hope I'm right. I have a hard time trusting my instincts some times.
I havent had a single email from THE SLICK ONE today.....guess I'll let him stew....
