thanks all, I appreciate your vote of confidence, actually I'm pretty sure I could let her know i was there if need be.....
Actually, when H was telling me "it" was all over back when, he made the comment that he didn't think she ever wanted to "go nose to nose and toe to toe" with me because she thought she'd come out on the losing end....

Back in my wilder younger days, in college, a guy walked up to me in a bar and pinched me on the boob, and I decked him, literally put him on the floor....of course ther was an element of surprise involved, but his friends told me for ever after that he was scared to death of me. I bet I could do it again even now hehehehehe

been around awhile!