Hi again Pam, you are right about the BIG A contributing to the financial mess....directly and indirectly....I have combed through every check and financial statement since mid october, (bomb drop time) and I think pretty much figured out where the discrepencies came from.....for one thing, I've always been the one who "kept the books" (H is clueless) and after this hit, I couldnt think straight enough to do it for a long long time....I just kept the checkbook ledger and didnt reconcile it against the statements, so there were checks written that werent recorded or deducted, I made notes to go back and chek theme out, and never did it....now, both of us wrote some checks that were never deducted, I had maybe 3 in the $50.00 range....I found that many that H wrote in the 300.00 range, and several in the 40.00 range.....the checks H wrote were when he was on his big trip last fall w/OW, and around that time.....So yeah, there's that tangled and expensive mess in addition to the phone cards, cell bills, gas he's been buying her (did I post what I figured out about that?) plus extra I've spent on lingerie and toys and hair and ......yep, there's no such thing as a cheap affair.....and I remember one time I was so mad about it all and mentioned all she had stolen from us, and especially from S and D, and H looked puzzled and said "what has she stolen? duh...........O well, as TC posted from some stuff on her threads, you never confront or argue w/a MLC'er because they cant be reasoned with.
