in chronological order, H was grumpy/distant yesterday morning, kind of that way but not as much (SIL was at our house, so hard to tell) yesterday evening, complained of being tired and his back being sore still, then when I was almost asleep, H initiated ML....ok, this is 5 times since Friday afternoon...I'm not complaining, it's just very unusual. Maybe its some kind of a test....anyway, he made comments last night that "maybe we should do this 2 or three times a day" and "this is what I've wanted for years" ( heard that one on Saturday, also) and "I've tried to convince you for years"....another comment was "I think your naughtiness triggered my naughtiness response"...It was good, and he was enthusiastic, it wasnt a "going thru the motions because she wants to" kind of deal. What would bring on this interest? Is it some sort of test?
Then this morning we had all-staff meeting, the hated thing....H was complaining about it all yesterday...how he wanted to skip it....on and on and on...So this morning I got there before H and was actually back behind the sign-in desk when he came in to sign in....OW wasnt there yet...H avoided eye contact, and I couldnt help but notice that he kept his left hand down out of sight as he signed in, and turned carefully so I couldnt see it when he walked away, and was nervous as a long-tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs (or a w---e in church, however you want to say it....)I sat at a table behind him and to his left, and noticed he was nervous through the entire meeting....and kept his hand out of sight....So, I was right, THE SLICK ONE does take off his wedding ring when she might be around, and he does put it on at opportune moments. the s--t head. I sat by a co-worker (male) who is in an office 2 doors from H, and he asked if we did our usual vacation trip this year, and when that was, which I thought was an interesting question. Made sure I chuckled and joked and laughed with him, though. I also saw OW go to get coffee once, and she looked pissy and grumpy....not at all happy.... Today of all days I put a card in H's lunch, that says how special he is and how much he means to me.....I did go over to the other building and notice that H is not in his office....don't know where he is, there isnt much place anymore for him to hide out w/OW...
Ok, so now what do i do (besides go home and sabotage his damn bottle of lotion, that is)HOW DO I HANDLE THIS???????....just ignore it? i was really irritated and had a notion to confront him but I've decided that is useless, he will just get angry and defensive and it gives him justification for what he does/how he feels. I've thought about laughing and saying something to the effect of I love you even if you don't wear your ring around.... I thought of saying matter of factly, "I love you and always will, but I am very certain that I will not be able to live the rest of my life this way".....or just ignore it, act "as if" everything is cool, and keep on doing what seems to work to draw him back to me.... or of course go over and choke them both!!!!
I'm always happy when she looks pissed though, and she did this morning, actually its been a long time since I've seen her look "happy".....I know she was giving him ultimatums just before we went on vacation....I don't know that there is any reason she would have stopped....
