All you need to do is just doing more of whatever it is that is drawing H slowly, and it really is slowly isn't it? back to you.
I have seen you make the comment a few times regarding is this something that H would be doing if he was planning to leave? Well, he isn't planning to leave I would bet $ on it, and I am not a betting woman. This OW thing is just dragging on way longer than we would like for it to.
I was thinking last night about your $ woes and I was wondering if the cost of H's affair is directly or indirectly related to that.
Think about what he may have spent on gas, cell phone bills, calling cards, not to mention OW related gifts, dinners etc.
Think about what you may have spent on fancy lingerie, highlights for your hair, new clothes, etc.
It would be oh so easy for all of that little stuff to add up to an extra $400 a month, which is nearly $5000 for a year out of your budget.
I am sure that D's wedding prob played a part in all that too.
