Okay Deb, I have just finished rereading some of my thread. As you know, I got a lot of really great advice from HB and others on this BB. I am quoting some things that were "relayed" to me below. These are things that I am sure you already know, but sometimes it is just good to see this advice again to remind us..
Quote: One of the reasons we do not confront an MLCer is YOU CAN NOT REASON WITH THEM. As you said they are all over the place.
You have to basically ride it out.
You mentioned that you thought maybe your H was in classic MLC.
Quote: HB has given you good advice, Stop confronting him.
If he brings it up, don't bite, don't catch the ball, stop your part of the dance.
In my case, I had been arguing with my H a lot...trying to get him to see the "light". Duh!! Silly me!!
Quote: Setting boundaries with an MLCer is tricky business. Done with extreme caution and must be well thought out.
Stop mentioning the calls or text messages or anything relating to ow, not forever, but for awhile.
You must get your focus off of your H's behavior and on to yourself. Detach, detach.
I thought that some of this might apply to some things that you are feeling/going through right now. The rest ... I guess, to look at for possible future reference.
