Quote: his face was bright, dark red....I couldnt tell that his eyes looked like he had been crying, but his face was the color it gets when he is...he said he didnt feel very well and had been resting....I put my hand on the side of his face and it was hot, when I asked about a temp, he thought that side had been on the pillow....H hurried off and went to the basement and put in a couple miles on the treadmill....kind of like he couldnt handle seeing me or didnt want me to see him.
Quote: H came up and sat on the stair landing, which he does sometimes. He looked incredibly sad, but the redness was gone from his face...H looked sad, not ill....as I sat there working on the checks, I had the feeling that H was considering saying something, but he didnt.....
Gosh Deb...This is so hard! If this is the exact way things went when your H broke up with OW before ...then I guess maybe that is what's going on (again)?? There wouldn't be a chance that she is giving him ultimatums, would there? I know we could speculate all over the place, but you knowing your H best ... you probably need to go with that "gut feeling".
This is where DBing is so very hard!! (Well...it is just plain hard anyway!!) From the sounds of it though, YOU are staying on track! You mentioned not knowing what to say. In my opinion, when in doubt ... say nothing, which is just how you handled it!
I am hoping that your weekend is going well. Am anxiously awaiting to hear how you are doing.
